SPARE the rod and spoil the child.
Nowadays, there is much talk of whether to use corporal punishment on children. Some say that caning children will cause them to be rebellious while others view that caning is the most effective way of disciplining the children. I support the latter.
I feel that caning would make a child more disciplined. This is because when a child is caned because of his wrong deeds, he would know that what he has done is wrong and that he should not repeat it. The scar on his hand and the pain would constantly remind him that repeating the same mistake would result in a similar consequence. I think that caning is an effective way as it would avoid the child from making bigger mistakes. For example, a simple lie such as saying that you have done all homework when you have not would end up as false witness in court. The concept is clear: Lying is wrong, however you explain it.
On the other hand, some people may claim that caning a child would cause him/her to be rebellious. I beg to differ. I feel that if a correct set of moral values is instilled in a child, then the child would not be rebellious in the first place. One should know that it is wrong to disobey parents. Hence, the child should listen to his parents. In the event that parents are in the wrong, then I think that parents need to be open to listen to what the child has to say. If they are really wrong, parents should sincerely apologise to the child so the child would dare to speak out next time.
In conclusion, I think that caning should be used as a form of discipline instead of an abuse. Parents should only cane their children when they are wrong instead of basing it with their own emotions.
On your opinion on how caning should be used as a form of discipline, I would like to beg to differ to you as well, while of course, respecting your personal views.
ReplyDeleteIf only the world was so perfect as to know, ACCEPT AND FOLLOW all rights and all wrongs. My point being - the world's not so perfect to be able to follow what you believe should happen and understand that one should follow one's elders and not be rebellious, leading to damage in family ties. There are different sides of the story in caning events. Also, you probably well know that one method doesn't work for everything which also applies in this case.
I, as a witness of caning in the family, also hope that everything would be as perfect and quixotic as your beliefs are.
I hope to not have offended you, but at the same time, I still would like to give my opinion on the topic.
Dear Frank,
ReplyDeleteThank you for commenting and I would like to inform you that I am not offended. You have the right to your own views but I still stick to my point that caning is a good way of disciplining.
Thanks. (:
Dear Mr Sarcasm,
ReplyDeleteJiankai here. I just want to give my view that caning is no longer the best way to educate a child nowadays. I am talking about the psychological level here. When you cane a child, he or she will feel pain. This pain brings about fear and it is this fear that causes the child to think twice before acting again. However, after the caning, the child will then stop his misdemeanours out of fear alone.
I do not think that this is the ideal mindset a child should have. When punishing a child, the child must know where he had gone wrong and act according to what is moral, not just because he is afraid of the punishment he will receive. It is like looking at the answers of a revision paper and just quickly scribbling it down without a thought before your teachers find out about it. The results of caning will be that kids still do not know where they went wrong, think that they are being mistreated and develop negative feelings to their elders. And nobody wants that.
I think that the best way to reach out to a child is through peaceful, family orientated counselling.
Dear Mr. AEP student,
ReplyDeleteI mentioned in my post that caning is a form of discipline, but I did not say that it is imperative to use it everytime. Caning can be used for some serious offence like cheating in school but using it on trivial things like throwing tantrums is unnecessary. A child can know that an act is serious, one way is by caning. The fear would stop him from doing such things again. Sometimes children may be ignorant to parents' counselling and just nodding to get away from it as quick as possible. Hence, a strong message should be sent when something he did is wrong. (:
Dear Mr Sarcasm,
ReplyDeleteHowever, ultimately, be it caning or counselling, the child will learn only if he wants to learn. Based on my statement above, I persist that the pain from caning is an unnecessary factor in discipline as it would not help in the education of the child.
Dear Mr. AEP student,
ReplyDeleteYou know, a child is not as mature as you and will not always 'learn only if he wants to learn'. Hence, when parents are still obliged to discipline them, they have the right to choose what is the best for the child. It is not the pain that matters, but what the child has learnt.
Dear Mr Sarcasm,
ReplyDeleteYes, you are right. The mind of an adolescent is very much different from that of a child. However, I do not approve of the pain received by the child during caning as sometimes it creates this bitterness ans sense of hatred towards the parents, which might create a gap between parent and child for a period of time.